Jan 02, 2017
Have you had an idea to do something – and then you didn’t do it?
Or maybe you started – you took a first step (bought a book, signed up for a workshop) – but then you stopped within the first few days.
That “thing” (that you want to do, that you know would move you forward) has probably already crossed your mind.
Perhaps it’s exercising on a daily basis.
Starting a new business.
Writing a book, blog or website.
Maybe you have an idea to go outside more.
Be more active with friends and family.
Or maybe it’s the opposite: to unplug more, rest more, relax and enjoy.
Today, write it down. Get it out of your head and put it on paper.
Then think about these questions:
Are there routines/bad habits in your life that you know you should break? What are they?
Write them down.
Are there new routines that you know would serve you and make you feel great? What are they?
Write them down.
What stopped you?
Here is what stops me:
1. Discomfort. This is the one that gets me almost every time when I want to try something new. For example, I KNOW that exercising/sweating on a daily basis gives me high levels of energy and makes me feel great. I know this. So why don’t I do it? Discomfort. It’s too cold outside. It’s too hot outside. It’s raining. It’s dark. (the excuses are endless). It’s too far to drive to the gym. I don’t have the time. I’d rather stay in, sitting on the couch. My resistance to exercise is so high that often I can’t even motivate myself to do 10 jumping jacks while I wait for the coffee to brew. Now, come on. What’s up with this? How can I not do 10 jumping jacks? Discomfort. We as humans live in a “comfort zone” which after a while becomes the discomfort zone.
You know the frog in the water story? If you throw a frog in a pot of boiling water, it will jump out.
If you put a frog in cold water with the heat on, it will just sit there until it dies.
In these studies, if the water is heated too quickly, the frog WILL jump out and that’s why often in our life there are events that push us to move and change: a loss of job, a death, a sickness, a tragedy. But often, the heat is NOT TURNED UP QUICKLy we just sit in our lives, not moving.
Welcome to the human condition. We stay in “comfortable” situations, not realizing we are slowly dying.
Get out of the pan. Shake up your routine. Try new things.
2. Fear of Failure. What’s interesting about this one is that we fear failure if we do something new, but actually we are failing if we do nothing and continue to keep drifting through life. If you have an idea to do something, go do it. Be bold. Give it your all. If you fail, GREAT! You tried. You will be in a new place. You will have learned some things. Then dust yourself off, get up and keep going.
3. Fear of Other People’s Remarks/Criticism. I get criticism almost every time I post a blog post. I’ll get 100 great comments thanking me for sharing and then one comment from someone saying to me: “Who do you think you are?” and that one comment has had the power to stop me from writing ever again. In honesty, I receive several negative comments whenever I post. Some people say to me “I’m disappointed in you.” I’ve come to realize this just comes with the territory. I usually get around 20 unsubscribes from my mailing list every time I send a message and a couple of complaints, people reporting me. I have had people question me, bully me, and post things about me on the internet. I’ve had people tell me I’m an ego, a show-off, selfish and that I don’t care about anyone except myself. I’ve been told my writing is bad. I’ve been told my teaching is bad.
But here is the thing: I feel AMAZING whenever I post a new article and step out of my comfort zone. It feels scary at first, but then it feels great. I feel happy, alive, bold and free.
4. The “Why Bother?” Syndrome. I see this one a lot in spiritual communities. I saw it a lot in myself for many years. People say “It’s a dream, why bother?” UMMM. Why bother? Because there is a voice in your head, telling you do something. You should do it. That should be reason enough. If you are receiving instruction/guidance to do something, change something, to take a step – then do what it says. How simple! It’s your own Mind, guiding you to your own happiness. But what happens? The ego-mind shuts it down with a spiritual concept like “I need do nothing. There is no world. It’s an illusion. It’s a dream.” This here is the frog in the water syndrome again. You are just staying where you are = La-Di-Da – wondering when your life is going to start. Meanwhile, the water is getting hotter and you start to notice you don’t feel so good. You don’t have as much energy as you know you could. You start to feel seriously stuck.
What will you change?
I decide on the goal I would achieve. I am in charge of my energy, focus, attention and time.
I would love to hear from you. Post your comments below.